You never get a second chance to make a first impression. In the Game, the last first impression is that of sexual prowess. Though a successful seduction is oft defined as a sex-close, it should more properly be regarded as a satisfied partner eager for more if social repercussions are not a factor.
Perhaps nine out of ten women will NOT want you to wear a condom on your first time together. It’s a so-called slut tell. Actually, liberated promiscuous women are not literal sluts but whores with very discriminating tastes by percentage, but the notches add up to haggard depreciation just the same whilst most men long for semi-haggard ‘sluts’ of impenetrable chastity. Game is crossing that abstract social line and being in the club of desirable men to work your own qualifying filters. The subtitle of Neil Strauss’ famous book is accurate but easily misinterpreted. The nature of female intrigue is to engineer secret society for primeval reproductive advantage. Enlightened PUAs simply recognize and reap the rewards of liberated female duplicity in a society hellbent on self-destruction.
I am learning Game and I have discovered a weakness that I am now correcting. You would be a fool to not wear a condom with a first-timer, virgins excepted perhaps. Women will typically not want a condom involved. The reasons are instinctual: (1) she ‘wants’ your seed if you are turning her on, and (2) she ‘wants’ total intimacy and your complete trust. She wants the highest ranking guy she can get, and she wants the guy to impart to her the highest regard he can possibly give. The condom is a complete slap in the face of her reproductive competitiveness by definition. She ‘wants’ sperm and resource commitment. Condom usage lowers her mate worthiness, which is her status, in your eyes. What to do?
I am more certain about telling you what NOT to do. Do not get logical, always the basic general rule. In this case, being logical without restraint will lead to: (1) loss of masculine authority and dominance, and more importantly (2) expression of fear. The last thing you want to do is seed her mind with uncertainty and fear that will sabotage your inaugural sex together and poison her rationalization of what her interactions with you mean for her status and yours.
Instead, I suggest that you respond to the usual condom brushoff with authority.
“I have a policy.”
Delivery is more important than logical content. If she is not satisfied and asks what that policy is, tell her you always wear a condom until after a month or two. Tell her that if two people are really special together they will stand the test of time: it’s only a month or two, and for people meant to be together that is a drop in the bucket. So now you have moved from just maintaining masculine authority to qualifying her in the A3 phase for an ltr. She has to earn it if she wants it. 🙂 I expect the inaugural sex will be quite good.
I say expect because I lack enough experience to say for sure. Roosh is Mr. Experience, and he has a catch phrase, something like ‘Let me get something just in case.’ as I recall. Notice that he is not talking to her logical brain, which is emotionally subjugated and can only say no and can never say yes. It is the instinctual hindbrain that says yes. His line indicates that he is a man who takes care of details and can protect her welfare. He is solving HER problem too without explaining it.
In any event, you don’t want to lower your status or her status over the condom issue, so read each situation for the special snowflake that she is and maintain masculine frame, or the sex will be lousy.
—‘Reality’ Doug, 26 September 2013