I thought I’d pass on an interesting logical connection I made today. As Neil Strauss related in The Game (p. 130), David DeAngelo recommended reading Dog Training by Lew Burke early on in the PUA movement. Now that I am able to ‘generate attraction’ in women by a lizard-brain-to-lizard-brain mind meld that works on women under 25 well but not so well on women over 30, and I’m okay with that, I can tell you that the idea is not crazy.
So it occurs to me today that women with a dog often go by the dog’s assessment of prospective men, and it makes perfect sense. If a woman wants a man to lead and if the woman and her dog are in sync, then it ought to be easy for the man who can lead her to lead her dog.
The trick to making the connection is the supposition of a woman’s instinctive desire to be led like a pet dog. The lesson, or at least the field experiment, indicated is to treat a woman like you would treat a pet dog. More precisely, as will be evident with practice and serendipity, you must communicate with her in the way you would a pet dog. Body language is everything, and keep it simple in terms of logic. Women like emotional variety so don’t hold back on range there, just be certain about yourself and fit the situations as they come along, or she instigates them. Don’t take a pile of instigation.
Stop using logic. Stop using reason. Coax, chide, and pet to get what you want, but make sure everything works out (in the scope of your life not hers) and you have her trust in your lead. If it can’t work out, next it. If you don’t have the connection, you have no reason to be there unless you are gaming a fresh set.
Can you go straight into such a social relevance? Sometimes, but not always. If direct does not work or seems inappropriate, go indirect and fish lazily for the lizard brain bite.
If you don’t go too far too fast with the connection, her hamster will have time to rationalize a narrative script for how you fit into her movie of a life. The trick is to not be needy as you escalate. After that, beware of buyer’s remorse (casual kissing can thwart casual sex). If she tells or shows you the narrative she has in mind, you can follow it or attempt to revise it.
If she gives you a green light in her mind and you miss it, she will close down. In that case, reframe as the prize she has to earn. I think sometimes the correct response is to try to escalate so she can reject you so that you can demonstrate the rebuff does not bother you by staying right there for the inevitable true yes. My guess is that older but more experienced women would more likely play that game. Women know plenty of manipulative techniques by 25.
Men aren’t dogs as much as women are. XX project like projectors and lie like rugs. Ruff.
Dogs smell fear. So do women.
—‘Reality’ Doug, 27 November 2015