Time to dispel a myth. Females, we are told, learn verbal language sooner and better than males do. Rubbish! It seems to me that more of the great authors are men. Men take longer to develop than women because it takes much more mentally to be a man, especially at the high end of culture. For high culture men, words convey precise meanings that construct and convey logical ideas.
For women words are tools to manipulate men.
Women don’t care about the denotative value of words, just the leverage. Women put their faith and treasure in body language.
For charismatic men expressions of body language are tools to manipulate women.
Reliable calibration requires a reliable read of the target and the social environment. Sometimes a skilled seducer presents conflicting messages by the languages of body and words. I think it confuses and engages the insatiably curious Pontification Pussy. When women yap they are trading intelligence on people to update the Pontification Pussy and gain better manipulation leverage. Obviously, women who share intelligence run the risk of betrayal and might pass along disinformation. Liberated women are always scheming, or they are burnt out cat
So imagine you are in a public place holding a sign that says, “Kiss Me, I’m Desperate.” Would you feel like a fool or make it look cool? Notice how at the end the experimenter-subject is glowing with confidence. The success bred more success. Notice the angry daughter-guarding father. I suspect the daughter instinctively knew his bark heralds no real bite, which is why his reaction was textbook beta. He’s had how many years to mold a young lady? and be confident in himself?
There is another consideration beside the vibe broadcasts of textual and physiological messages. Was the camera in plain sight or hidden? That likely makes a big difference in the attention whoring wilds of the big Western carcass. Regardless, despite the repulsive desperation inherent in the written words for all to see, the cause of receiving female tenderness was not lost. Take it to heart.
So how can you practically apply the lesson that body language trumps words? You must be able to answer R&D questions like that yourself so you can empirically test your hypotheses and develop your own working theory. Expect my next post to give you a practical idea on developing your body language to an advanced level, but as always the proof is in the field testing.
[Update: I removed two final paragraphs that are progenitor text of the aforesaid post to come. Damn, I ruined the next post for lots of you. Woops.]
—‘Reality’ Doug, 27 April 2015